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Today’s topics: Male birth control pill, sore throat from fellatio, a wife and mother who’s too tired for sex, and the calorie content in sperm.
Climaxing too fast
Dear Janice,
When my boyfriend and I first started having sex, he was able to go for hours and hours. Now, a year has passed, and it seems that he can’t last more than 10 minutes. I don’t understand what happened. What gives?
Tina
Hi Tina,
In a new relationship, it’s normal that we want to impress our significant other. The way he would impress you is by lasting a long time in bed. The lovemaking was long and drawn out, and made you feel amazing.
As time progresses in a relationship, however, and you become comfortable with one another, many things begin to change. One of those things is usually sex.
It’s very possible that your boyfriend would hold back his orgasm to ensure your pleasure, but after a year of doing so, he, too, wants to surrender to his sensation and go for his orgasm.
Think about it; imagine every time you had sex with him, you forced yourself to hold back your orgasm to ensure his pleasure. After awhile, it would become tiresome.
What you can do to get some time back is set up the evening for it by teasing him and giving him a long, drawn out session of sex. You can tease him by bringing him close to the brink and stopping abruptly, only to start up again a few moments later.
But to expect him to last for hours every time you have sex is a little exaggerated. You can casually mention to him that you miss it, but understand that it’s tough to hold back when the feelings are so intense to orgasm. Maybe that’ll encourage him to hold out every once in awhile to please you.
Janice
White stuff down there
Hi Janice,
I have been dating my girl for about 2 months now. Recently, it was late at night at her place and I decided that I would give her a treat by going down on her for the first time.
Well, let me just say that it was unpleasant. It didn’t smell terrible, mind you, but there was this white, creamy stuff in her pubic hair and inside her lips that really made me queasy.
Needless to say, I didn’t even start the job, although I’m sure she was left feeling a little puzzled by my actions.
Can you please tell me what that stuff is and whether or not I should be worried?
Gus
Hi Gus,
What you’re describing is commonly known referred to as “discharge.” It is completely normal, especially considering it’s odorless. All women have some kind of discharge and the amount of it increases when they near the ovulation phase of their cycle.
If a woman goes from morning to night without showering, you can bet that there will be some discharge on her underwear, that’s why it’s important for women to shower on a daily basis.
It’s not harmful in any way, but it would’ve been considerate of her to have the foresight to shower before she let you go down on her. Sure, it might put the mood on hold, but considering your reaction, I’m figuring you would’ve appreciated it.
Good luck,
Janice
Do virgins go to gynos?
Dear Janice,
I am 29 and still a virgin; yup, I’m the ivory-billed woodpecker everyone thought was extinct. Anyway, I wanted to know if I should visit a gynecologist. Considering I never had sex, I don’t see why I would need to be checked for STDs, but my friends insist that at my age, I should go anyway to get checked. What do you think?
Amy
Dear Amy,
Believe it or not, gynecologists don’t check you for STDs; you need to go to a clinics or CDC (Center for Disease Control) to get checked for them. Rather, a gynecologist:
- Performs a pap smear to check for any abnormalities in your cervical cells (HPV, fibroids, etc.) by taking a swab sample
- Checks your uterus and ovaries for any abnormalities
- Performs a breast exam to check for lumps
- Checks your urine (for proteins)
- Checks your blood for anemia – an iron deficiency
So, yes, it’s very important to head to a gynecologist, preferably the same one, on an annual basis. A woman does not have to be sexually active in order to need a physical vaginal examination. Ask friends and family about their own doctors and start calling around to find one who will take you on as a patient.
Good luck,
Janice
Introducing toys to boyfriend
Please help! I’m a big fan of sex toys and have been using them for many years. Well, I have a new boyfriend whom I adore but he’s a little, um, conservative when it comes to sex.
I really want to bring my vibrators and the like into the bedroom with us, but I’m afraid that he’ll freak and leave me. Please tell me how I can do it so that he doesn’t lose it.
Tanya
Hi Tanya,
Although I find the fact that you depend on toys a little unsettling, I will focus on advising you on how to introduce them to your man without repercussions.
To begin, have the talk. At some point, the subject of sex should come up. When it does, ask him questions about the wildest place he ever did it, what his fantasies are, and finally, how he feels about props and toys. His responses will give you a clear indication of where he stands up to this point.
If he’s dead set against toys, then you need to mention to him that you’ve used them before and really enjoy them and want to share the experience with him. Start off with mild props, however, like blindfolds and feathers, and slowly work your way up to vibrators and the like.
If he’s up for it, then, again, don’t bombard him all at once, start off by letting him use a vibrator on you, and work your way up to the other things you want to use.
As well, prepare to indulge his fantasies, because although he may be conservative right now, opening his world up to new sensations may give him the courage to speak up more often.
Enjoy,
Janice
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